Our Families never really got on. In fact I never got on with my family. As an abused child I was happy to be out of there when I joined the Army. My friends couldnt understand why I was so happy to go to Ireland in the 70s and risk being shot. But my mates hadnt lived my life for the last 18 years. So off to Belfast I went where I met a girl, fell in love and got married. All a bit quick really as was the arrival of our son while I was away. Thats when I got scared. What if anything happened to me? What if my family got custody of my son? I couldnt let that happen. I needed help, I needed a solicitor so I talked to the guys at camp and then started looking for Family Law solicitors and found quite a few solicitors Leicester and Nottingham based which looked like they could help. I contacted them and found out that was my first mistake. The Solicitor was brilliant and as he pointed out to me, should I not have spoken to the wife first?
Oops, dumb or what. As he said, concerned and trying to help me with real advice, it is always better for both parties to be in on these things. I felt like a real idiot. I decided I wouldnt talk to the missus until I was home on leave that way I could explain everything and we could decide together what we should do. I hadnt told her about my past and she deserved to know that anyway so it seemed the best idea all round. Mistake number two.
By the time leave came around it had all proven a bit too much for the wife and worried I might not come back at all, remember this was the 70s when people were being shot and blown up every day, in fact in 1972, before I got there thankfully, 172 British troops were killed on the streets and the bloodiest year was in 1976, the year I was in Belfast, when 320 people died as a direct result of the troubles. 220 of those people were civilians. Where did all of this lead, sadly it changed my needs from a Family Solicitor to a Divorce Solicitor. Am I bitter, no not really. I made my choice to move away from being afraid and angry and she made hers. I only wish I had seen my son grow up.
